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The issue is that he did not make me aware of the strippers. Later, I saw him bending over and on his ass was a bunch of permanent marker. BUSTED! He kind of came clean, but the timeline of his story and his lack of details make me think it’s worse than I know.Nero Giardini Sandals - Women Nero Giardini Sandals online on Canada - 11531341DG, Padders - Navy 'Snug' women's memory foam slippers, He refuses to discuss it with me. Not to mention that when he came home at 4am, he had sex with me. I feel a little used.Ecco - Helsinki Bicycle Toe Tie - Dress Shoes ,Inexpensive, stylish shoes, Twin-Set Simona Barbieri Sandals - Women Twin-Set Simona Barbieri Sandals online on Canada - 11274541BC,
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Do you want to be in a marriage to a man who goes to strip clubs or not? Did you not discuss this before you married him?
I Understand why you feel used.If you don’t then he gets to choose to do what he likes stay married to you or go to strip clubs when he wants.
If it’s not that big a deal it’s not that big a deal. If it is then it’s a deal breaker.
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My neighbour found out her fiance had simulated sex on his stag night Stripper strapped on a dildo on him and rode the dildo. His brother and all the other married men didn’t go to the strip club only him and his single buddies. She didn’t marry him,. She actually was so distraught she committed suicide a few weeks later.
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Only you know what is right for you and what you want. You get to choose just like he does.
Calm, open and honest discussion is the only way. Not telling him what to do or pretending it is ok with you if it isn’t.Native MILES 2.0 LITEKNIT - Slip-ons - jiffy black/shell white, Diadora Heritage Sneakers - Women Diadora Heritage Sneakers online on Canada - 11247454PC,
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Your jealousy says a lot about you, perhaps counseling would help you to feel more secure about yourself and your marriage. I agree with Evan on the Black Out of your husband, this is not normal and is a sign of an alcoholic.
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